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Straight White Affluent Male Native-Born Protestants Are Uniquely Oppressed

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If you're stuck being the enforcer, be prepared for grumbling about how heavy-handed you are. Don't let this mislead you into using a lighter hand, because they won't reciprocally pay attention at lower volumes. They'll just ignore you until you get the two-by-four back out of the closet and make it clear that you really do mean it. Be prepared as well to have them claim that any prior damage caused by their behavior is your fault, because you should have told them earlier.
 
If you're stuck being the enforcer, be prepared for grumbling about how heavy-handed you are. Don't let this mislead you into using a lighter hand, because they won't reciprocally pay attention at lower volumes. They'll just ignore you until you get the two-by-four back out of the closet and make it clear that you really do mean it. Be prepared as well to have them claim that any prior damage caused by their behavior is your fault, because you should have told them earlier.
   
Do not argue about their intentions. They'll swear they meant no harm, then sulk like fury because you even suggested it. In most cases they'll be telling the truth: the possibility that they were giving offense never crossed their minds. Neither did any other scenario, because unlike real adults, they take no responsibility for getting along with others. The idea that in a cooperative work situation, getting along with one's fellow employees is part of the job, is not in their worldview.
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Do not argue about their intentions. They'll swear they meant no harm, then sulk like fury because you even suggested it. In most cases they'll be telling the truth: the possibility that they were giving offense never crossed their minds. Neither did any other scenario, because unlike genuine adults, they take no responsibility for getting along with others. The idea that in a cooperative work situation, getting along with one's fellow employees is part of the job, is not in their worldview.
   
This too is a function of privilege. They assume they won't get hit with full penalties for their first offense (or half-dozen offenses), and that other people will always take on the work of tracking their behavior, warning them when they go over the line, and explaining over and over again what they should have done and why. It's the flip side of the way people of the marked state get hit with premature negative judgements (stupid, dishonest, sneaky, hysterically oversensitive) on the basis of little or no evidence.
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This too is a function of privilege. They assume they won't get hit with full penalties for their first offense (or half-dozen offenses), and that other people will always take on the work of tracking their behavior, warning them when they go over the line, and explaining over and over again what they should have done and why. It's the flip side of the way people of the marked state get hit with premature negative judgements (stupid, dishonest, sneaky, hysterically oversensitive) on the basis of little or no evidence.
   
 
Note: attractive SWMFs sometimes pull this one too.
 
Note: attractive SWMFs sometimes pull this one too.
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